Welcome Dr. Charley and thank you for taking the time to spend with me, our fellow readers, reviewers and fans here at Naughty Book Snitch. I’ve recently had the pleasure of attending the BDSM Writers Con in New York this past August and now I am obsessed with you, the conference and the attending authors.
You are a very busy and successful woman. Can you tell us more about what you do for a living and how you came to be where you are at today?
Hi Mindy. I’m thrilled to have met you this past August at BDSM Writers Con. I’m especially pleased that you enjoyed the conference. We put a lot off work into making it special for our writers and readers not only through the exceptional workshops we provide but the safe and inviting community we’ve built to allow participants to feel comfortable when exploring such a controversial topic.
I’m a Clinical Sexologist & Sex Therapist. I have been advocating for sexual health, sex education, and sexual rights for the past twenty years. My advocacy work consists of conducting lectures throughout the US, Latin America and Asia on sexual health, self-empowerment, and of course Dominance and submission.
My therapeutic practice and Mentorship Programs consists of helping men and women overcome any difficulties they’re experiencing in their relationships or themselves and helping them fully connect with their core essence to ensure they live a fuller more rewarding life. Because not everyone lives in New York City, I offer telephone and Skype consultations.
On top of that, I’m the host and founder of BDSM Writers Con which I started in 2012. It started as a 3-Day BDSM Workshop with a handful of authors and readers and in the past five years has skyrocketed into a 4-Day conference with over 150 participants. For 2016, BDSM Writers Con will host it’s first annual west coast conference in Everett Washington, just outside of Seattle.
Why do I do what I do? Because I believe men and women have a right to embrace their full sensual and sexual identities and core essence.
You have several books out including the award winning BDSM The Naked Truth. Are you currently writing anything new? If so, can you tell us a little about your W.I.P?
Actually I’m working on two new books at the moment. One is a playful activities book for the wild child within all of us called, Naughty Games & Activities. This book is full of playful activities like word searches, mazes, crossword pulls and more; all with a very naughty adult subtext to them. I figure, why should kids have all the fun? There’s also pages for you to share a sensually wicked tale or draw a sexy activity which would have sent you to the principal’s office in your younger days.
My second book is called, An Owner’s Manual which guides you on an internal quest of self-discovery. Yes, I purposely say “quest” as opposed to journey. Anyone can go on a journey, but a quest…now that’s getting to the heart and soul of it all; besides there’s always dragons to battle on quests and we all have a few. An Owner’s Manual will help you address your life, your relationships (whether D/s or vanilla) and help you decide consciously for yourself how you wish to experience your life and what you share with others. An Owner’s Manual requires your courage and your determination –hence the quest.
How did you first discover BDSM and when did you decide to write about it?
This is a hard questions to answer since it requires me to try and separate who I am from when I actually discovered there were “others like me” and by the grace of the Universe there was actually a whole community—a world—out there.
I was kinky before kinky was popular. I recall sitting in my bedroom for hours when I was a teenager starting at the life-size murals I’d drawn on my walls. Murals that depicted BDSM scenes that I didn’t yet understand what they were; like one of a man being whipped by two girls in short shorts; or the one with the nude male while the woman wore a beautiful blue gown. Back then, over 30-years ago, such behavior or thoughts were not acceptable—hell, even today, they’re still not very popular in certain circles. (Wait…did I just age myself? chuckles)
I remember what it was like sitting on my bed thinking I was weird and wishing I could be “normal” like everyone else. Wishing there was someone to talk to that would help me make sense of it all. That’s one of the reasons why I became a Sexologist and sex educator specializing in BDSM; because there aren’t many therapists or educators who will discuss sexuality and desires without judging you or putting their moralistic prejudice twists to it.
As for writing about Dominance and submission, I started writing about it back in 2002, providing little snippets of it my books such as Sex Unlimited and The W.I.S.E. Journal for the Sensual Woman. It wasn’t until 2011 that I actually wrote BDSM The Naked Truth and BDSM for Writers. and came out of the leather closet myself. This year, I published Domme Says which is full of playful quotes a Dominant woman would say incorporated into a journal book – because we all need a place to write our thoughts. And under BDSM Writers Con corporation, we published our second annual BDSM Writers Con Anthology 2015 which holds nine wonderful BDSM stories by this year’s featured authors. Note Amazon censored our anthology and deemed it “adult content” making it almost impossible to find on their website unless you know to look under adult filters or “all departments”. Therefore, we made it simple to find on our website and even threw in a discount.
I attended BDSM Writers Con in New York this past August. For me personally, it was the best conference I have attended so far. Can you tell us about the BDSM Writers Con and how it came to be? Is this a conference for writers as well as readers?
I’m so pleased to hear you enjoyed BDSM Writers Con. That it’s the best conference experience you’ve had…smiles…I’m thrilled to hear. Our goal is to provide a playful safe atmosphere where participants can learn and discover for themselves the various aspects of the Dominance and submission lifestyle through the lectures and live demonstrations we offer conducted by BDSM experts. Alongside our BDSM workshops, we provide educational and marketing opportunities for authors to enhance their skills on how to better write their BDSM novels and sell them.
Don’t let our name fool you, BDSM Writers Con is for both writers and readers of Dominance and submission. Our name merely lets you know what you’ll get—lots of BDSM writers and content.
Like any other book conference, BDSM Writers Con is a place where readers can mingle with their favorite –or soon to be favorite—authors. However, that’s where our similarities end because we take you further—much much further!
We bring in BDSM Experts with years of experience to share their thoughts and lifestyle with you. Our live demonstrations allow you to explore first hand some of common BDSM practices and our SM Exploratorium allows you to embrace your dominant or submissive side—or both—as you try various activities such as flogging, bondage, or sensory dep (a fancy name for using blindfolds.) Plus, we take you to an actual BDSM Club or create a Dungeon for you (as we’re doing in Everett), where you can actually experience the lifestyle first hand among those that actually live it. Whether you relish in being a voyeur or want to try a real-life experience of your own, is up to you. We won’t tell. smiles.
Many of our participants, both authors and readers, have returned year-after-year as each BDSM Writers Con provides its own marvelous experience. Some of our participants have been with us for five years; when we were just a 3-Day Intensive Workshop.
BWC will have its first West Coast conference in Everett Washington in March 31 – April 3, 2016. What will the Everett conference offer that the New York one might not? For people who may be attending both conferences in 2016 or may have been to one the previous year, what new things can we look forward to?
I’m so excited about our first West Coast conference. Every BDSM Writers Con is different and has its own personality making every workshops, live demo, and Mix & Mingles we host unique. The major difference between New York City and Everett will be that we’re hosting our very own BDSM Ball & Dungeon Party. We’ve joined forces with the local D/s community and are bringing the Dungeon to our participants at our host hotel. And New York City hosts a Publishers’ Panel and editor agent appointments.
For Everett, we’re hosting two additional Mix & Mingles which are being provided by our sponsors. The first is our “Unofficial Kick-Off Party” for those participants arriving early which is on March 30 and is sponsored by Blue Water Organic Distilling. Blue Water is even creating a special signature drink for us using their very own organic vodka and other ingredients. They’re calling it: Spank Me!
BarMyx Everett’s Alternative Bar is also hosting a Mix & Mingle for us on April 1st and their bartenders—all men—will be serving us wearing creations by Cut-2-Me-Designs another of our sponsors. Talk about erotic wear for men.
Best of all, our Sunday Book Fair will include more than just books; it’ll have a little art work by our sponsor Seattle Erotic Art Festival and sample tasters by Blue Water Organic Distilling and more.
There’s so much more we can do in Everett because the costs of putting on the conference is much less. Best of all, our host hotel is providing us with rooms for only $79 – $99 a night. Did I mention our keynote speaker is erotic author Tiffany Reisz?
No two BDSM Writers Cons are ever alike whether we’re in Everett or New York City. You won’t want to miss either one. And now we’re making it easier for you to do so with special holiday discounts and of course our many giveaways. Why not attend them both and tell us which you like best?
Do you have a favorite book that you like to read over and over? Tell us about what books/authors you enjoy reading. I love a good book recommendation.
Laughs…you think I have time to read? Well, okay I will admit I do use reading as an escape. My favorite book is Rough Canvas by Joey W. Hill. This story has it all for me; a man (Thomas) struggling with family values, being accepted, and supporting those he loves, while he silently yearns for the love he doesn’t think is possible. And his lover (Marcus), who’s fighting to show Thomas that their love can survive if Thomas would simply reach for it—fight to keep it. All of this within the context of a D/s relationship that’s so erotic it melts my eReader every time. There are so many nuances to this book that each time I read it, I discover something new. I’ve read it at least seven times in the past two years. It’s my go-to book when I want to relax and turn off the world.
Because of the Golden Flogger Award, I’ve had the opportunity to discover many new authors which I’ve added to my must read list like: Alaska Angelini who’s hard hitting BDSM dark erotica books make my heart race with anticipation; Jillian Verne & Cris Anson who are sizzling hot in their descriptions; and new authors just starting their writing careers like Rose C. Carole, Corrine A. Silver and Arlee Scott. Each year, I discover a few more authors through BDSM Writers Con and the workshops I conduct.
I just have a few more quick and fun little questions for you.
Favorite movie and/or TV show?
The Terminator & The English Patient. I just love the fact that he goes back for her regardless of the risk to himself (The Terminator) or the fact that he knows she’ll have died (The English Patient). I’m a major romantic at heart.
Hear Me Now by Hollywood Undead
Do you have pets (animal or human)?
Grins…I will only admit that I practice what I teach.
eReader or Paperback?
I love the convenience of an eReader especially that you can increase the font size. However, when I’m reading anything that’s non-fiction or editing manuscripts for those authors I Mentor, it’s paperbacks all the way.
All the recent Golden Flogger Award nominees.
Thank you Dr. Charley for taking the time to meet with me today and getting Snitched Between The Bed Posts. It was an honor to have this one-on-one time with you and I am looking forward to seeing you again at the BDSM Writers Con in Everett Washington March 31 – April 3, 2016 and in New York August 18 – 21, 2016.
MORE ABOUT THE CONFERENCE
BDSM Writers Con where fantasy and reality come together!
Dr. Charley Ferrer
Sex Therapist & Educator
TV/Radio Host & Producer
Award Winning Author
America’s Intimacy & BDSM Educator
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Books by Dr. Charley Ferrer
BDSM Intensive — NEW (March 2015)
BDSM for Writers
BDSM—The Naked Truth
The Latina Kama Sutra — Nominated for Best Sexuality Book 2006/2007
The W.I.S.E. Journal for the Sensual Woman — Awarded Best Self-Help Book 2002
The Passionate Latina: In Our Own Words
Sex Con Sabor Latina (A play)
La Latina Kama Sutra: El Guía Absoluto Para Citas, Sexo, y Placeres Eróticos
Para La Mujer Sensual – Best Self-Help Book 2002
Facts About Dr. Charley Ferrer:
* The ONLY Latina Doctor of Human Sexuality in the United States!
* ONLY American Sexologist invited to speak to the populace of Falcon Venezuela 2013
* ONLY American-Latina Sexologist invited to speak before the Chinese Sexology Association in China 2013 & Hired to work with the women of China on sex education
* Sex Expert for Fox News Latino, Telemundo, El Diario La Prensa Newspaper, Fruta Extrana, KISS FM—The Michael Basdien Show, Latino Future Magazine, and Hispanically Speaking News—Chicago
* Recognized as a “Groundbreaking” Latina Leaders of 2006” for her work in the field of Sexology and Sexual Health by the National Association for Latina Leaders
* Recognized as a “Groundbreaking” Latina Leaders of 2006” for her work in the field of Sexology and Sexual Health by the National Association for Latina Leaders.
* Author of the Best Self Help Book 2002 — The W.I.S.E. Journal for the Sensual Woman
* Spoke before the World Congress of Sexology & International Congress 2005, 2006, 2008
* Guest Speaker at ASSECT Convention 2008
* Professor of Psychology & Human Sexuality at Rutgers University
* Freelance writer with various magazines, newspapers and internet sites
* Deemed “The Latina Dr. Ruth” by various magazines and International newspapers
* Called the Monty Hall of Sex for her ability to provide endless possibilities and solutions to relationship and sexual problems
* Keynote Speaker at various Universities & Organizational events
* Conducts workshops/lectures throughout the USA and Latin America on Sexual Health/Education
Join the BDSM Writers Con
Early-bird registration: $250
Full Registration: $300 for Everett 2016 starts March 1, 2016
Full Registration: $300 for New York City 2016 starts August 1, 2016
At the door registration: $350
BDSM Writers Con is dedicated to writers and readers of Dominance and submission. No other conference offers writers and readers the ability to discover the complexities of Dominance and submission through workshops, live demos, and fascinating hands-on experiences while you interact with your favorite–and soon-to-be favorite–BDSM authors. Plus you’ll attended a private BDSM Club Party.
Our host & founder, Dr. Charley Ferrer a world-renowned Clinical Sexologist and BDSM Educator provides you with the secrets you need to know that’s got erotic authors like Cris Anson exploring and the Rolling Stone Magazine taking notice.
Due to the nature of this event, ALL participants must be 19 years of age or older!
Refund & Cancellation policy: Refunds less $150 administrative fee available up to 91 days prior to conference. No
refunds 90 days prior to conference. Featured Author status cannot be transferred nor refunded. You can transfer your registration to a qualifying participant for $50 per transfer. Questions contact: firstname.lastname@example.org
August 18 – 21, 2016
Keynote Speaker – Sierra Cartwright
Tell them Mindy Book Snitch OR Naughty Book Snitch sent you 🙂
See you all soon… hopefully in Everett Washington! That’s where I’ll be.